We’re right here in the center of holiday celebrations. Whatever holiday you celebrate, the joy, laughter, gatherings and food are a part of it.
As you bring together your families and friends, you are all different and all alike in so many ways. You love your friends and family, though you may not always like them.
Sometimes you have diverse and divisive opinions and philosophies. These disparities can create uncomfortable situations. You have many strong astrological aspects happening this month as we proceed into 2020. Use these aspects for support, count on them and their divine intervention in events.
Now, please allow me the opportunity to share 5 tips for creating conversation and communication beyond the usual stress reducers of the holidays.
Let me preface with the three most common triggers in family/friend get togethers:
1. A family or friend brings up a memory they think is funny and others don’t.
2. With the loss of a loved one, family members are at different places in the grieving process. Remembering humorous stories of the deceased may not be pleasant for everyone.
3. Financial matters, whether an inheritance or how a family member is making financial and career choices
And allow me to add a fourth in these times of prevalent media coverage and commentary at all levels:
**Different members of the family hold polarized views of political and social issues. This one is a biggy, for sure!!
First, take a look at what the issues are behind the people who are disrupting the holidays.
“Sometimes people who yell the loudest or who cry the most just feel like they are not heard.”
- Set ground rules for discussion tone, not discussion topic.
- Center conversation in sharing and learning.
- Humor can break up the tension but use it wisely.
- Include everyone at the table, especially kids. They have a great perspective.
- Switch your perspective. Play “Switcheroo”. Each person in the discussion will take the opposite perspective and find the positive in it.
Needless to say, there is no place for offensive words or name calling in the discussion.
My thanks to Marva Robinson for her loving input on this subject.
Wishing you all pleasant get togethers, happy holidays and FUN!!!
December Horoscopes and YOU!!
ARIES: Jupiter sets off for your house of professional responsibilities on the 2nd. This is your chance to make your mark in your career. Around the 10th or 11th a family member may call on you to help them out of a tough situation. You may have to “take orders” around the 18th and that’s not easy for you! At the end of the month, trust the Universe to have you in the right place at the right time.
TAURUS: The Sun and Mercury in Sagittarius will keep you busy this month at work and planning for the holidays. Delegate some duties around the Full Moon on the 12th. Feel manipulation from others? You’ll know for sure thanks to the planets in Capricorn and Uranus in Taurus. A new person may arrive after the 20th and someone you haven’t seen in awhile at the end of the month.
GEMINI: The Sun is in your house of relationships until the 21st. Your ruling planet, Mercury, will be adding to the fun until the 28th. Focus on your finances with Jupiter entering Capricorn on the 2nd. Dreams could come true for you and for someone else on the 20th. You’ll put your heart and soul into the effort. Be flexible with your holiday plans at the end of the month. All is well!
CANCER: The Sun and Mercury in Sagittarius this month will urge you to shirk off some of your responsibilities and have some fun. Jupiter enters your house of one-to-one relationships for a year bringing strong possibility that someone close will need your time and attention. Friends will be there to help. Someone will cross your path under odd circumstances. Be open to the gift from the Universe!
LEO: The Sun and Mercury will make it their business to make this holiday season a merry one for you. You have plenty of chances to mingle and maybe be caught under the mistletoe. Jupiter enters Capricorn on the 2nd, so complete all your homework before you get out there and play. Enjoy the last of the month with true loved ones! They count! Be flexible as holiday plans progress.
VIRGO: If you haven’t been in love for a while, prepare yourself. Venus and Jupiter in Capricorn, your house of love affairs will have you attracting admirers. This is the house of creativity as well and Mars in Scorpio will have you creating a masterpiece. The chance to spend time with tried and true loved ones arrives around the 26th. Make memories of a lifetime!
LIBRA: The Full Moon in Gemini on the 12th will help you to expand your horizons either through travel or education. You’ve been thinking about returning to schools sign your self up or just take that trip. Regardless of how it happens, you’ll want to ditch your current rut and the Universe will provide you with lots of chances to expand. Be flexible with the Solar Eclipse of the 26th. All is well.
SCORPIO: You’re no stranger to hard work, but Saturn and Pluto have been pushing you to your limits. Your determined to keep going no matter what! Planets try to distract you from your mission. Complete your tasks then kick back and have fun. You can make a real difference in the life of someone close by listening or giving them a pep talk. Holidays are for fun, love and being together.
SAGITTARIUS: Jupiter spent a year in your sign and now moves into Capricorn, your financial house. Resolve to contain yourself on spending. Thoughtful gifts are better than expensive ones and you’ll find the perfect gifts mid-month. Your values are changing in the process. Devote an entire day to someone who’s been missing you. Make the holiday the best ever by remembering what’s important.
CAPRICORN: Unexpected opportunities to play will occur this month. Enjoy all the good feelings that the season offers no matter what. Convincing others to see things your way will be easy mid-month. The Sun moves into Capricorn on the 21st. Be spontaneous. The Solar Eclipse of the 26th in your sign indicates big changes over the next 6 months. Someone helps you get the show on the road.
AQUARIUS: If you’re ready to travel to visit a loved one, this is the month to do it. Whether midmonth or closer to the 20th you’ll meet someone who reaches out in spontaneous fashion to let you know how you’re loved and appreciated. The 26th Eclipse inspires you to make a personal to-do list for the new year. You know what you need to move your life forward in the direction you want to go. GO!
PISCES: It’s time for some FUN with the Sun and Mercury in Sagittarius. People are willing to cooperate fully, and you’ll have a chance to show off your talents. Let them know what you’re capable of and what you’re willing to do. You’re available to help others at the end of the month with your intuitive soul soothing. You’ll also be juggling new responsibilities at home…all good!
Happy December!! And take a look at my new reading for the New Year 2020!!