Life can bring surprises. Have you had that experience where one little comment can send you off into a universe of understanding far beyond earlier thoughts? That Aha Moment when you say that it all makes perfect sense and why hadn’t you thought of that before?
My Aha moment came in the form of a small book, The One Philosophy, written by Nancy Matthews, co-founder of Women’s Prosperity Network and a caring friend. The book encompasses just six principles and each reminds us of what it means to be “the one” for ourselves and for others, supportive, respectful, and loving. I chose to be part of the Founders Circle and become certified to speak on each of the principles.
What I really mean is to speak on the essence of each of the principles and not just the words: how we can make our life better, feel better, speak with understanding of others and I’m all for that! Our world has become full of name calling, blame and ugly words which doesn’t leave us feeling good. The rhetoric becomes a distraction from the real issue. We’re truly not divided into little groups or put into boxes with a label to have our importance rated and determined by others. We’re all in this together.
Fifth graders were my world in another life. I enjoyed working with young people. Teaching is a symbiotic relationship and we learned from each other. With the sheer numbers in a classroom, we had to have structure and rules. The overriding rule in our classroom was BE KIND. It was the blanket rule for everything. The same holds true for the principles in The One Philosophy.
So let’s start with Number One: TALK LESS AND LISTEN MORE.
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” Bryant H. McGill
This means really listening. Being totally present to the other person and not planning on what you’re going to say. Or making that list in our minds of what we need to do. Or looking around to see who’s come into the room or walked through the door. Imagine the gift you give a person when you let them know that they are important to you by just listening to what they have to say. It may be a relative who is telling you the same story for the umpteenth time. It may be your child trying to tell you something while you’re on your phone. It may be your client letting you know what they need. It may be your spouse or partner asking your opinion while you’re doing something else. The scenarios are endless. And I have been guilty of them all!
What does it feel like if someone doesn’t listen when we speak to them? We’ve been on the receiving end of being ignored in a store, in the grocery line, our spouse or partner, business associates, customer service personnel and our kids. We lose our significance and importance as a person in the situation.
But, we have the opportunity to give ALL those that we meet the gift of listening.
Here are a few tips according to Nancy:
- Look in the eyes of the person you’re speaking with.
- Be excited and eager to learn something new.
- Resist the urge to look over their shoulder and around the room.
- When your mind drifts, bring yourself gently back.
- If the environment is not conducive to listening, ask to set a time or place in the future to continue.
- Turn off the already and “I already know that.” “I always do that.”
- Instead of trying to win an argument, consider that the other person is trying to make a point as well. You may not agree, but you can listen.
Be the One that you want to meet in the world and Be the One for YOU!!
Next month, Principle Two: Hold Your Vision and Share It With Others.
ARIES: Feel Spring in the air! It’s your month as you start off the astrological year as Spring. Your personal life or a particular relationship is going to snap with change. From the Full Moon on the 12th to the 19th, enterprising modes of operation may not be the most exciting, but they will turn out to be constructive. The New Moon in Aries signals great energies: important, accepted and approved and impulsive.
TAURUS: You love the Springtime. Things feel like they’re growing perfectly for you. The Full Moon has you meeting with other like-minded Earth sign people. There may be some money questions to answer. With Venus retrograde in your 12th House, people from the past may show up, old lover? Mars enters Taurus and there is increased energy for you. After the 23rd, tough goings with planets possibly destabilizing security.
GEMINI: This is the month to develop new work strategies and network. Let your dreams and ideals in as well as your family time. After the 17th, things could be a bit more cynical. Get organized and hold responsibilities together. Your social life takes off like a firecracker. Follow the beat of your own drummer and be innovative and progressive. The end of the month could find you at odds with others. Stay grounded.
CANCER: Your Ninth House, higher mind, philosophy and distance travel, is activated this month. The Full Moon of the 12th and the 17th means double check all decisions. Faith and spirituality are sources of strength and inspiration. When Mars enters Taurus on the 9th, your social life picks up. From the 23rd to the 30th, you may be at odds with others which could destabilize security so keep calm. All this may offer a fresh start in a new direction.
LEO: The Sun brings its influence to your Eighth House of shared finances and possessions, private profits, tax and estate matters. Check on a budget and be clear on thinking about money. The Full Moon of the 12th could mean the weight of money responsibilities. The biggest pinch may come on the 17th. Jupiter in your house of communication has you in touch with everyone. Testy aspects at the end of the month could bring power struggles. Be patient!
VIRGO: This month the polarity between you and your opposite sig, Pisces, may hold your attention. A mate or alliances may be moody. There may be sudden financial changes and these themes could continue to the end of the month. Planets in your commitment sector could bring interesting relationship activity. You could be thinking of past relationships and there could be passionate interactions with different kinds of people. Be aware and open to the new vibes.
Libra: Planets in Pisces rule health, work, service work environment and pets. It’s the basic work/health needs that keep the necessities of life running smoothly. Good time to look at improvements in this area. At the Full Moon on the 12th, don’t let chronic emotions or events get you off center. The end of the month from the 23rd to the 30th could be stressful, disruptive, loud and angry. Use your natural instincts to create peace and harmony.
SCORPIO: The Sun is soft, sensitive Pisces. You’re in the right place. You want warm, open flows of affection between you and loved ones. You’re also ready to take charge of something with a kind hand. Is there an assessment needed? Do you need to start afresh? Do something more exciting and not routine? Get it moving. The end of the month is stressful and there could be a few arguments. Balance is the key to relationships, fiscal responsibilities and work duties.
SAGITTARIUS: Your Fourth House is highlighted of home and family so not the time to make changes that unsettle this area. The Full Moon on the 12th along with other negative aspects, may pull chaotic emotions out of everyone. Don’t go to extremes. Jupiter, your ruling planet, may bring some unexpected, sudden news that will energize and enlighten and bring exciting breakthroughs. Watch for power struggles at the end of the month, possibly money.
CAPRICORN: The Sun in Pisces sets the solar influence for the month in your communication house. The Full Moon in Virgo may bring chaotic emotions or difficult circumstances regarding people’s feelings. But, there’s clean up from the 12th to the 20th. Deals and communications may be a lot more rough and tumble at the end of the month. This is still a month dealing with romance and sensuality. Be aware!
AQUARIUS: Your second house of money is highlighted. Brush off your skills and see if you can make money keeping a sharp eye on finances. If shopping, only buy what you really want. The Full Moon in Virgo on the 12th could bring chaotic emotions pulling you off center. Direction is needed to avoid any misunderstandings. Expect lots of luck this month if you don’t push it. Try to let the Aries New Moon on the 27th create a fresh start rather than add emotional fuel to the fire.
PISCES: This is a big month for you! You’ll be noticed and may seek a leadership role, ready to start something new. The Full Moon in Virgo, opposite your Sun, could bring a lucky breakthrough or a risky overplay. Be careful. At the end of the month, thing could get pretty extreme if tension has been building. Stay in control of your money and avoid power struggles about it. The end of the month brings more variety and stimulation into your daily routine.
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